Reclaiming Your Strength in Parenting

Ever felt disoriented, overwhelmed, or even grief-stricken in your journey as a parent? Join me, NatNat, on "Lift One's Self" as we tackle these heavy but common emotions head-on. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the emotional rollercoaster of parenthood. We dive deep into the feelings of discombobulation, doubt, and grief that many parents experience but rarely discuss openly. I share personal insights on how to balance these emotions, maintain mental clarity amidst the chaos, and stay away from the damaging trap of comparison. This isn't just about survival; it's about recognizing your worth and giving yourself the compassion you deserve.

In the second half of the episode, I lead you through a powerful self-appreciation meditation tailored for parents. Imagine seeing yourself as a resilient, compassionate warrior, even on your toughest days. With affirmations like "I appreciate myself. I am deserving of my own love and care," we work to nourish our hearts and bring a sense of peace and protection into our lives. As we gently transition back to our daily routines, we'll carry with us the calm and self-love cultivated during the meditation. This episode is a sanctuary, a reminder to be kind to yourself, and a resource you can return to whenever you need to reconnect with your inner strength.

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Transcript

Navigating Parenthood

Speaker 1 0:03

Hello and welcome . To Lift One's Self . I'm Nat . Nat , and today I want to talk directly to the parents out there , to those who are navigating the intricate and often overwhelming landscape of parenthood , this journey with all its ups and downs . It's something I deeply empathize with because I'm in the thick of the mud of it . It can feel like a constant state of discombobulation , like you're trying to piece together a puzzle where some of the pieces are still missing . But here's something I want you to remember You're not just trying , you're doing it . Yes , it may feel messy , it may feel imperfect , and there are probably days when you wonder if you're even getting it right . But that messiness , that imperfection , that is the doing , it's the process of growth , both for you and your children , understanding discombobulation . You see , parenthood is an ongoing state of learning and adaptation and at times unlearning some things and at times unlearning some things . You're working on understanding yourself while simultaneously embodying a role for your children that you may never have experienced yourself . And that's hard . It's challenging because it brings up so many emotions Doubt , worry , fear and that persistent feeling of not being good enough . These emotions aren't just passing feelings . They're rooted in something deeper . Some of what you're feeling is the grief of stepping into a role for your children that you never had , a role that you were never shown how to play . That grief is real and it's okay to feel it . It's okay to acknowledge it , to give it space . It's essential for your well-being and healing .

Speaker 1 2:24

The power of deep breaths . So what you can do when these feelings become overwhelming , when the discombobulation feels like it's too much to handle , one of the most powerful tools you have is your breath . Those deep , intentional breaths are not just about calming down . They're about grounding yourself in the present moment , acknowledging what you're feeling and giving yourself space to process those emotions . You see , a lot of times we hear breathe and people will get frustrated with that because they're missing a certain part . It's about bringing your attention to your breath to help regulate your nervous system , to come out of your head and drop into your body , to allow yourself to feel the sensations and emotions that are surfacing . And that is warrior work . You see , your breath is always in the present moment and it never leaves you . Yet when we're not focused on our breath , our mind goes to the past and the future and having a spiral in so many ways . That's why focusing on your breath is your anchor . It's a reminder that you are here in this moment , doing the best you can with the tools you have , and that is more than enough Finding balance for me .

Speaker 1 4:03

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Speaker 1 5:39

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Speaker 1 7:11

And in this whole process I want to bring up appreciating yourself . Now here's a thought I want you to really let sink in Take yourself off the hook . Yes , let me repeat that Take yourself off the hook . You don't need to be perfect , you don't need to have all the answers because , guess what ? You won't have them . What you need is to appreciate yourself for what you are doing , for the effort , the love and the care you're putting into being the best parent you can be , not what others are doing . Do not get caught in that comparison trap . It gets you stuck in not taking action , gets you stuck being in your head . Appreciate where you are stuck being in your head , appreciate where you are . Bring context into your life . You are deserving of receiving your own appreciation . You are deserving of feeling safe in your own skin . Validate yourself . This isn't about meeting some external standard . Isn't about meeting some external standard . It's about recognizing the warrior you're doing every single day and , at times , every moment . Parenthood is warrior work . It's not about fighting against yourself or your circumstances . It's about fighting for your well-being , for your self-appreciation and for the safety and love that you and your children deserve .

Speaker 1 8:54

My closing thoughts and meditation invitation as we wrap up today's episode . I want to leave you with this You're not just trying , you're doing . It may not always feel pretty , it may not always be easy , it may not always feel productive , but you are doing it and that is enough . Give yourself the grace to appreciate that . Thank you for being here with me today . Thank you for being here with me today . Remember to take those deep breaths , acknowledge what you're feeling and appreciate the incredible work you're doing , both for yourself and for your children . Before we part , I want to invite you to stay for a short guided meditation .

Speaker 1 9:42

This meditation is more than just a way to relax . It's a powerful tool to help you truly engage with everything we've talked about today . It's an opportunity to integrate these insights into your body and mind , to cultivate that deep sense of self-appreciation and inner peace . You see , a lot of times we know better and we're intellectualizing things , yet the real work is to embody it , to put action in your everyday lived experience . So , if you have a moment , find a comfortable place to settle in and let's take this time together . If you're tuning out now , take care and be kind to yourself , but if you're staying with me , let's begin this journey inward .

Speaker 1 10:38

Welcome to this moment of peace and self-appreciation , and self-appreciation . I'm Nat Nat , and today I invite you to take a journey inward to a place where you can release the need for perfection and simply be . This meditation is designed to help you ease into a space of self-appreciation where you can honor the warrior work you're doing every day , in every moment . Begin by finding a comfortable position , either seated or lying down . Allow your body to relax , letting go of any tension you might be holding . Letting go of any tension you might be holding . Close your eyes , if that feels comfortable , and take a deep cleansing breath .

Speaker 1 11:31

In and exhale , releasing any stress or worry . Continue to breathe deeply and naturally , letting your breath guide you into a state of calm . With each inhale , feel your body filling with light and peace . With each exhale , let go of anything that doesn't serve you in this moment . Now bring your attention to your breath and begin breathing in and out through your nose . Notice the gentle rise and fall of your chest , the way the air moves in and out of your lungs . Your breath is your anchor , grounding you in this present moment . It's a reminder that you are here , doing the best you can . Allow yourself to drop into your body as you continue to breathe . Imagine that each inhale is releasing self-judgment .

Speaker 1 13:02

Inhale and exhale In this safe space . Allow yourself to acknowledge any feelings that may be present . You're safe to feel . You're safe to feel . You're safe to let go . Surrender the need to control , release the need to resist and just be those feelings that may be present . Maybe it's doubt , worry or grief , maybe it's the feeling of not being enough , or maybe it's all of them . Whatever it is , let it come to the surface without judgment . Take a moment to silently say to yourself it's okay to feel this way . I am doing the best . I can Feel the weight of those words , feel the release that comes with allowing yourself to simply be , without needing to change or fix anything . Right now , appreciate yourself .

Self-Appreciation Meditation for Parents

Speaker 1 14:32

Continue staying with your breath Now , bringing your awareness to the incredible work you're doing every day , in every moment , the care , the love , the effort you put into being a parent . It's worry , work and it deserves recognition , your own recognition In your mind's eye . See yourself as a warrior strong , resilient and compassionate . You may not always feel this way , but that doesn't change the truth of it you are a warrior in your own right . Take a moment to silently repeat to yourself I appreciate myself . I am deserving of my own love and care . I appreciate myself . I am deserving of my own love and care . I appreciate myself . I am deserving of my own love and care . Let these words settle into your heart . Let them nourish you , fill you with a sense of safety and protection and peace . Continue staying with your breath dropping deeper into your body as we begin to bring this meditation to a close .

Speaker 1 16:33

Gently bring your awareness back to your breath . Notice how you feel in this moment , carrying with you the sense of appreciation and calm that you've cultivated . Take a deep breath in and slowly exhale . Begin to wiggle your fingers and toes , slowly bringing movement back into your body . When you're ready , at your own time and at your own pace , gently open your eyes . Carry with you the peace and appreciation you've created in this space . Honor the time that you have cultivated in giving yourself space and appreciation , taking care of yourself and your well-being . Remember you are a warrior deserving of love , appreciation and safety . Keep this feeling with you as you move throughout your day and come back to this meditation whenever you need it . It will always be here for you . Whenever you need it , it will always be here for you . Please remember to be kind and gentle with yourself . You matter and keep rocking it .