What Your Pain Is Trying to Tell You (That You Keep Ignoring)

What would your pain say if it finally felt safe enough to speak? This question anchors a deeply intimate exploration into the hidden language of our bodies and the protective nature of our suffering. 

We've been conditioned to push away discomfort, to reframe our pain into something more acceptable, or to fix it as quickly as possible. But this episode invites you into a radical alternative – creating space to sit beside your pain without agenda, without the pressure to perform or improve. Through a gentle guided meditation and vulnerable insights, we explore how the tightening in your shoulders, the knot in your stomach, and the flinching at loud voices aren't random sensations but messengers carrying important information about your unmet needs.

The journey toward emotional sobriety begins when we recognize that pain doesn't exist to punish us. It exists to protect something valuable within us – perhaps old grief that never found expression, memories we've never spoken aloud, or the wounded part that fears abandonment. When we learn to witness what's real inside without numbing or running, our exiled pain transforms from tormentor to guide, pointing us toward forgotten boundaries and the truth of who we are beneath our coping mechanisms.

This episode offers a simple but powerful journaling practice to help you begin this conversation with your body's wisdom. If you're ready to go deeper into this work, the Emotional Sobriety Workshop mentioned provides a soft place to land and begin again. Remember to be gentle with yourself in this process – healing isn't linear, but your return home to yourself matters profoundly.

Chapters

• 0:00 Pain's Unheard Voice
• 0:30 Welcome to Lift One Self
• 1:19 Guided Mindful Body Practice
• 2:58 If Your Pain Could Speak
• 5:14 Invitation and Workshop Offering

Transcript

NatNat Be: 0:00

There is a part of you that knows it aches quietly when no one's looking. It holds your breath. When someone speaks a little too loud, it stiffens your spine, not out of strength but protection. That part of you has something to say. So let's pause and listen. What would your pain say if it finally felt safe enough to speak?

NatNat Be: 0:30

Hey, beautiful souls, welcome back to the Lift One Self podcast. I'm your host, nat. Nat, this is a space where we don't just talk about healing, we live it, we get raw, we get real and we anchor it all in practices so that we can begin returning home to ourselves. If this is your first time here, welcome home. And if you've been here before, thank you for walking this path with me. If anything you hear today resonates, please support the podcast by taking a moment to like, share, comment and subscribe. That ripple helps others find their way back to themselves too.

NatNat Be: 1:10

Today's episode is an intimate one, a quiet invitation to sit beside your pain, not to fix it, but to understand it. Let's begin by dropping into our body, taking that mindful moment. If it's safe, gently close your eyes or soften your gaze, bring one hand to your heart and the other to your belly. Feel the inhale move through your nose and the exhale melt through your mouth and the exhale melt through your mouth. Let the next breath soften your jaw, let the one after that drop your shoulders, let your belly be held, not sucked in. Let your body be. There's no performance here, no pressure to be anywhere, but in this breath, notice, if there's a place in your body that feels tight, knotted, tense, you don't have to fix it, just say I see you, I'm here. Let's take one more breath together. Inhale deeply and exhale gently. Inhale deeply and exhale gently. When you're ready, gently open your eyes and return to the space around you, while staying with your breath.

NatNat Be: 2:56

If your pain could speak, what would it say? Not the pain that's spiritualized, reframed or repackaged. I'm talking about the honest, raw ache you carry quietly, the part of you that still flinches, that still wants to be held. Would it say I'm tired of pretending I'm okay, I miss who I was before all of this, or maybe I'm afraid to feel because no one stayed when I needed them? We live in a culture that shames pain, that tells us to push through it, reframe it, fix it fast. But here's the truth. I've lived and learned Pain doesn't want to be fixed. It wants to be heard. It's not here to punish you. It's here to protect something, and when we slow down enough to listen, we uncover what that something is.

NatNat Be: 3:50

Sometimes your pain is guarding old grief, sometimes it's wrapped around a memory you've never said out loud, and sometimes it's just trying to say please don't abandon me, the way that they did. This is the essence of emotional sobriety Choosing to witness what's real inside you, without numbing, performing or running. It's sacred, it's uncomfortable, and it's where your power begins to return. When pain is no longer exiled, it becomes a guide. It points you toward unmet needs, toward forgotten boundaries, toward the truth of who you are beneath the coping. So I ask you again what would your pain say if it finally felt safe enough to speak? So here's your invitation for today Find a quiet moment.

NatNat Be: 4:53

Invitation for today. Find a quiet moment, grab a journal and ask yourself what would my pain say if it felt safe enough to speak? Don't analyze, don't censor. Let it flow, let it speak, let it be messy, and when you're done, place a hand on your heart and thank your body for telling the truth. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it. Leave a comment or review. Let's keep this ripple going and if you're ready to go deeper, my Emotional Sobriety Workshop is open. It's a soft place to land and begin again and again. You can find the link in the show notes or at liftoneselfcom. Until next time, feel everything, return home to yourself and remember to be kind and gentle with you. You matter. Love, nat, nat.