Joy Unleashed

Aisha Makara shares her journey from burnout to intentional living, revealing how establishing boundaries and clear communication transformed her life and creative practice. She offers profound insights on becoming a powerful creator of your own reality through intention, presence, and self-awareness.

• Moving from America to Europe revealed the extent of burnout from the "go-go-go" lifestyle
• Givers must learn to receive and establish clear boundaries to avoid depletion
• Direct communication prevents misunderstandings and unmet expectations
• We can create "heaven now" through our relationships and conscious choices
• The power of words shapes our actions, habits, and ultimately our reality
• Rejection is simply "not today" – persistence requires just one yes to succeed
• Focusing on what you have internally rather than external limitations
• Seek mentors who have accomplished what you aspire to achieve
• Practice curiosity like children do – asking questions without judgment
• Patience with yourself is essential – "Moscow wasn't built in one day"

Be kind to yourself. I'm inviting people to be more kind with themselves because the world becomes so beautiful when we learn about kindness, love, caring, safety, and security.

Find more about Aisha here https://aisha.today/

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Intentional Living
• 8:45 [Ad] PodMatch
• 9:22 (Cont.) Welcome to Intentional Living
• 9:30 Burnout and the Giver's Journey
• 18:51 Meditation and Mindful Presence
• 28:20 The Power of Direct Communication
• 36:00 Creating Heaven Now
• 44:30 Courage to Live Your Dreams

Transcript

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 0:00

Welcome to the Lift One Self podcast. I'm your host, nat Nat, and today I have Aisha with me and we're gonna, you know, delve into what intention can do with your life and how you can start activating more joy and connection in your relationships with yourself and with others. So, aisha, would you be willing to introduce yourself to myself and the listeners and let us know a little bit about yourself?

Aisha Makara: 0:27

Hello everyone. I'm Aisha Makara, artist, author and entrepreneur. I'm living right now in Lisbon, portugal. It's a wonderful weather, really happy to have this amazing weather right now because it was raining all so many months six months. It was too much and cold. Um really happy to be here, really happy to um create more awareness and joy in life of my, of my own life and the life of the people. It's been an amazing journey so far and so many amazing experiences I have and I would like to share with you guys the experiences and the things I learned so far about life.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 1:17

Okay, I love the mural behind you.

Aisha Makara: 1:21

It's very yeah, I created it, by the way it's very beautiful.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 1:24

It's my artwork. Yeah, it's beautiful. I created it. By the way, it's very beautiful artwork.

Aisha Makara: 1:26

Yeah, it's beautiful my uh solo art exhibition is going to be just in a week, right oh?

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 1:31

that's a lot of um, excitement and stress and like trying to get all the last details. So I love that we're in this energy with you right now and you know cheering you on, also supporting you, that it's beautiful to see, that you're going to be, you know exposing yourself and sharing yourself, because what people may not realize for an artist, when they put something out into the world, it's like a baby. It's like a child, so it's very vulnerable and it's very tender. Yet it's very exciting and finally feeling seen and being able to share that energy and expression. So I'm excited for you and I'm excited to be in the delight of this energy with you.

Aisha Makara: 2:18

Thank you. Yes, I've been, like you know, created a lot of art and collaborated with many different artists. You know, created a lot of art and collaborated with many different artists. I've been, um, you know, kind of like uh, setting up different um art shows around the world, especially like in united states.

Aisha Makara: 2:32

I just moved out from united states to europe, uh like seven months ago, eight months ago, and for me it was an interesting transition because I'm feeling like completely different and I learned how exhausted I actually was when I arrived to Europe, how much we in a hamster wheel in United States, how much we just go, go, go, go go. We don't even check in with ourself because we don't have that time. We're always on the go and um. So I was, I never been almost sick when I was living in the united states, because you don't have that time and um. So I decided to create my solo exhibition.

Aisha Makara: 3:16

Even so, I had opportunities last, you know, in the united states as as well. My last place was New York. I couldn't, just I've been so exhausted and tired so I couldn't get out of me and that work or artwork. So I understood that I'm completely burned out and exhausted and it's like empty, you know, like my body, my soul, my mind, my mind, my heart. Everything was completely like empty. So I just started to um learn what? How did it even happen?

Aisha Makara: 3:55

you know, and um as a giver. I, you know, I see that world needs more givers, and um more givers we have in this world, more beautiful world can be, because givers, they're powerful creators, because they're always just giving, giving, give, and they don't, you know, expect anything back, because they just the way they are.

Aisha Makara: 4:19

You know, this is the way I am, and one day I was just asking myself why, why I'm like this, why I'm doing these things to myself, why I'm communicating things with other people and over 90 percent of my, my words and my time I show up because this is what I want to do. And why are the people not like that? Why I started to like think about that more, and you know deeper, because I didn't have this experience when I was living in Europe. You know, yes, people maybe didn't shop time to time, and they always like bringing the solutions and they were always kind of like working together. Um, you know, collaborating and from the heart, in america I experienced different things.

Aisha Makara: 5:13

So, for me, I just get burned out in such a level that I've never been before, and so it took me a time to recover. You know, like like I go, like to heal myself, so I give myself like about six months to just relax and do nothing. I would say like this and now I gain in the creative flow doing a lot of art, working on my solo art exhibition, create a lot of art. I just love it. So it's, you know it's, and this is what you're learning about life. Life is up and down and the most important what we can gift to ourself is to check in with ourself, asking what's going on, what's happening, why I'm doing it to myself, and that's very powerful question to ask yeah, as you say, a check-in.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 6:08

Would you join me in a mindful moment so that we can ground ourselves and go deeper into the conversation?

Aisha Makara: 6:14

let's do it all right.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 6:17

So I'll ask you to get comfortable in your seating and, if it's safe to do so, gently close your eyes and you're going to begin breathing in and out through your nose, bringing your awareness to watching the rhythm of your breath. You're not going to try and control your breath, you're just going to be aware of its rhythm, allowing it to guide you into your body. There may be some sensations or feelings coming up. That's okay, let them surface. You're safe to feel. You're safe to let go, surrender the need to control, release the need to resist and just be, be with your breath, drop deeper into your body. Now there may be some thoughts or to-do lists that have popped up, and that's okay.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 7:21

Gently, bring your awareness back to your breath, creating space between the awareness and the thoughts and dropping deeper into your body, being in the space of presence, of being. Again, more thoughts may have popped up. Gently, bring your awareness back to your breath, beginning again, creating even more space between the awareness and the thoughts and completely surrendering into the body, into presence, into the body, into presence, into the space of being. Just keeping that awareness on the breath, just allowing yourself to be, just allowing yourself to be Now coming into your senses, into the moment, at your own time and at your own pace. You're going to gently open your eyes while staying with your breath. How's your heart doing?

Aisha Makara: 9:18

My heart is peaceful and happy.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 9:21

Very happy and I'm so blessed, really blessed. Before we started recording, you were speaking about the weather and how there's been such a dramatic change in temperature and sometimes we push through and we don't realize how much it impacts our physical energy, body and what our capacity is. And you know, in a world that always tells you you don't have enough time, that's where we can go into burnout of not listening to the cues the body is asking us to slow down, to nurture, to take care of, to be aware of where we are and what is, you know, our capacity to offer. You also dived into the giving and wondering well, why am I giving so much and other people aren't?

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 10:09

And then this extreme burnout and some of that giving is a trauma response. It gives you a sense of safety, it gives you a sense of empowerment that if I'm giving then there's no threat of somebody taking anything away or that they'll ask anything of me. I think the biggest work from a giver is to allow themselves to receive, so it's reciprocal, is to allow themselves to receive, so it's reciprocal, and that is a tremendous work in the body because viscerally it feels like I'm not allowed to do this or it goes against the narrative of a quote unquote good person or actually feeling the fear. So what did that look like for you when you've been resting for these past few months and reflecting and being intro uh, you know, introspective and honoring your body they actually very interesting experience, because when I was living in new york, I, you know, I was asking for that support.

Aisha Makara: 11:12

Like you know, I was telling to the people I'm very tired. You know, I cannot right now produce things and I cannot like even like continue to give. So right now I would like to receive, and I didn't even have an energy to fight, you know, even like to speak, and it was just like in such a like, um, sadness, in such a deep, deep sadness, that people just continue to take and take and take. That's no, even nothing is there to take, but they're still taking whatever they can. And I was just, I was feeling like, oh my gosh, I just want to leave this place, because I was not anymore like feeling like would I leave longer?

Aisha Makara: 12:00

I didn't have any kind of ambitious or goals or like I was just like, if I ever die today, I just die. You know, it's okay, that's what I was came to, the like, it's like point of my life on, like that's kind of like very deep, deep grounding, that, um understanding that it's all okay and that was okay. To like continue, even I was empty, continue to give whatever I could, because that's what people was demanding. Even so, I communicated very clearly what I need and these people didn't.

Aisha Makara: 12:40

Like I'm surrounded by like I call like adult kids, you know, like who's consistently just crying and asking for more attention and more attention, and me like as a mature, more like listening to others. I'm like I'm not here to babysit these people. In the same time, they're consistently demanding that I'm here to babysit them. And um, and I started to kind of create this boundaries around me and when people like continue to ask me, like can you babysit me not like I'm, it's metaphorically and just take care of me or like help me with that, help do this for me. This I said listen, I do it because I want to do that, because I have capacity to do that, and if I don't want to do that, I would communicate with you and you cannot like continue to demand from me because I don't want to give it. It's not, it's I'm adult human being, you adult human being, so please take responsibility over your actions. So I started to communicate that and the funny things, what happened is that when I started to work on my boundaries of my bubble I go like a joyful bubble I started to get more the energy within from my heart, more and more. It took me a lot of time to kind of getting this, this powers back into me and communicate that.

Aisha Makara: 14:09

And when I moved to Europe, my friends was like completely different. They were like, take your time, stay here as long as you want, be here, just, you know, do nothing. Just let's go to the nice place. Nice, you know, connect with the nature. Let's go to the nice dinner. Let's take like you to travel. Let's you know, like being so caring and loving that I was just receiving this love and this caring. Yes, some of them kind of more like military style, I would say because they're like oh, this is like my house, this is my rules, and please like respect my rules. But I always, when people communicate, I respect their rules.

Aisha Makara: 14:48

So we continue to move and I also learned many people have expectations. Even so they open the door for you. They have this a way of expecting something from you. Even so they don't communicate it with you directly. And I like direct communication, I don't make an expectation. I think like in life you shouldn't have expectation. You can give because you want to give and you receive because also you want to receive. It's everything is kind of reciprocal right. It's giving and receiving At the same time.

Aisha Makara: 15:29

Many people have expectations and when you don't meet their expectations, they started to blame you or putting guilt on you and telling you that you're the worst or I don't know whatever in their mind because you didn't meet their expectations. And the funny thing is what happened with me, like when people opening the doors for me I knew, knew already, like do you have any expectations? I'm very direct. It's like what type of expectations you have for me, because it's up to me to give you that or not, because right now I'm already in such a level of emptiness, so even you will have the expectations from me and I feel it. I cannot give it to you because I, I just don't have it. You know, I didn't have that energy to give that you want me to give, and I feel like you're consistently pushing me to give you something that I don't have. And that's why I started to communicate better as well with other people.

Aisha Makara: 16:32

And the funny things what happening in reality? People don't listen and every time I'm communicating with them, in my mind I don't communicate so much, it's not so many things I'm expressing very clearly and direct. Even so, people don't listen. They, they don't. They don't have capacity to listen other human being and, in the moment, their needs. They're just thinking about themselves, but they want to take what's their expectations? They don't see other human being in the eyes. They don't see, they don't feel them, they're just thinking just so selfishly about themselves. You know why this person doesn't meet my expectations, why this person doesn't want to go in this box I'm putting. I want to put this person in this box, and every, every time I'm with people, I'm telling them each of us is unique, beautiful, magical by itself. We're all free. That's why I don't get attached of no or yes or I don't have expectations for years and that's kind of way of me living and this is why I wrote the book Joyful Living Guidebook, where I finally express my philosophy of life that I was living from since I'm a teenager and I just don't have this Like. I was always like asking why people have that, why I don't have that, why my communication is very direct and clear and I hear what other people tell me and they don't hear what I'm saying to them, because many people don't use the direct communication, they don't use the clear goals and clear way of communicating with gentleness and love. It's all about me, me, me, me, not us. In my mind, every time I'm creating a space or every time I'm with the people, it's always us, it's we.

Aisha Makara: 18:43

When I was 18 with my first boyfriend and I was like he says to me I'm so smart, I got the best school, best education. Here you are orphan from nowhere. And I I said to him listen, we decided to go together. Right now we're equal. It doesn't matter how education you have, where you are, what parents you have and I don't have parents, it doesn't matter. Now we want to walk together and we're equal. You know we're going together now and that philosophy already was me, like all my life. You know, now it's not me and you, it's us, it's we. And in his head it's never been a week. In my head it's always been a week, you know. So it was the very different way of connecting with each other and, of course, as a very young woman, you don't realize how powerful it is to be in that space, to create that space. That's why I was traveling around the world and always, wherever I go, I create a family because of this idea of we I have inside of me and the people like oh, I'm scared of this idea of we I have inside of me and the people like, oh, I'm scared of this. I'm scared, yes, I'm scared too.

Aisha Makara: 19:58

I was very scared when I moved first time to America and it was so scary of everything that's happening, the way people acting and people treating each other. It was so much violence and these power games and it was very, very scary. And when I was like in my early 20s and I decided to move to Los Angeles, you know, I just saw all these power games and all these different things. That's what's happening. It was so scary and I was feeling like, oh my gosh, this is how people treat each other. I was not ready for that experience. I was feeling like it's not something I would like to see in the world. I don't want to be one of these people. I didn't know who I want to be and at the same time I said, like I get to go on a discovery to understand who I am. And, um, like it took me a while, it took me some years to actually, you know, go in that exploration of myself and understand who I am, the way I am. So I decided, like it's life half up and down it's not decided, but like it was just like I started to observe and what happened is like when we go on a discovery of who I am like asking this question.

Aisha Makara: 21:14

In my life, I was like asking this question what is true love is what it is to experience true love, and I'm learning through my life I'm in my 30s right now. I'm learning through my life that the true love it's relationships, relationships that we will carry through all our life with people that we're sharing the experiences with, and many times people have a filter, or through the church, through the religion, or through the different like beliefs. We have this like a good experience and bad experience. In reality, we just have the experience of life. It's nothing good and bad. It's only experience itself and the way we're facing that experience with a smile and gratitude. When we started to face any experience with we have with a smile and gratitude and joy in our heart, we become so powerful, we become so magical and people will ask you oh my gosh, you're so beautiful, you're shining outside, outside and inside.

Aisha Makara: 22:25

How did it happened? Because one day I realized I'm a powerful creator, so I'm the creator of my life, I'm the creator of my reality. And when I started to really believe in that, my life is switched. I started to realize what is heaven for me, what it is to live in heaven now, why I get to wait for heaven, you know, after I die, or something. I can create heaven now by switching my relationship towards something more beautiful and meaningful, by being truthful first towards myself and honest with myself and communicated to the world what I feel truthfully right now. It's changing. Everything in life is changing. We're changing. We're switching. Ourself is moving all the time. So what's been truthful for me yesterday, maybe it will be not truthful what it's going to be tomorrow? We're changing.

Aisha Makara: 23:24

That's what I used to say to the people. Words are powerful. Our relationship and the connection we're creating in this world are powerful. The thing is, we're all powerful. We're all powerful, beautiful creators. It doesn't matter about your background, like about where you come from or your study, whatever what you bring to the world. We all can bring so much light to this magical world. Earth needs us to continue to create beautiful things and I believe more people like us can create the beauty and continue to smile and be grateful that we are here and, while I'm here, how much I can create, how much I can give. Give because it's coming within.

Aisha Makara: 24:14

And that's what I learned. I said, like I'm a giver, because I choose to be a giver, I nourish myself, I communicating with the world, who I am, the way I am. Every time is different, and this why I'm listening to my own words, because I'm in power to, to express myself with the words I want to express myself. And when each of us started to think how I want to express myself, what words I want to use every day of my life, my, the life, is completely switching. It's changing, transforming itself by being positive, by using positive words, by nourishing yourself, instead to say like I want to kill that person, or, you know, you say I smash because the words are powerful. You know, like you get to understand. I mean, I used to say to people you get to understand how powerful words are powerful. You know, like you get to understand.

Aisha Makara: 25:13

I used to say to people you get to understand how powerful words are, especially when you're communicating it with the world, when you want something. Do you really want that or is it just ego? Like it's something because many other people want the same things? This is what you want? No, truthfully, ask yourself what you want to create in this world what you truly want. It will come to you naturally when you truly want something. It's happening in a natural, most magical and beautiful way and what's what's really meant for you, meant for you. You can create it. It's up to you. Yes, it's not easy. Yes, maybe you will receive. No, just know that. That. No, today can transform. Yes, tomorrow, continue to show up, continue to give, continue to smile. Don't be attached to that. No, don't give up just because you receive one. No, every time when I'm living or, like um, traveling, and, uh, you know, I'm asking myself I just need one, yes, and I go and ask, even like, sometimes I'm traveling with.

Aisha Makara: 26:25

When I was backpacking many years, I was staying in a different like um, uh, houses and um, like couch surfing, and after one day, me and my friend was like, let's go like around the house, just knock on the door and uh, ask uh, people to just stay, random people, you, we don't know, we're just like choosing the house. Oh, it's beautiful house, let's go, let's go to stay one night there, you know, and we did it and we just knew we just need a one, yes, and we said, okay, we do like 20 houses just for fun, talk to the people and after, like, normally less than 10, normally it's between six to nine we get our yes and that's amazing because this is the houses that we want to stay. We choose the beautiful houses where we want to stay and we just go and do it. It's fun and this is how you actually learn. No is never no. You know. It's always a way to get your yes when you motivated and you're taking it as a challenge to learn why it's not today because tomorrow it can be yes. So many people give up. It's very fast.

Aisha Makara: 27:39

You know, like I was just sharing um, I have a friend and, uh, we're friends for many, many years. It's very like also about relationship. We know each other for over 10 years and he's amazing human being. You know he works a lot. He's very successful and amazing human being. I want to have relationship with that person in a romantic way, so I communicated that. You know I was like what it's cost me to communicate and ask these questions. We've been friends for so many years.

Aisha Makara: 28:10

It's just like a conversation and many girls would be like, oh my gosh, no, I don't want to have this conversation. He's my friend, so what? He's a male, you're female, you can always communicate. Yes, he's successful, very successful, and you, someone like I, don't make so much money, like I don't, you know in that position, whatever. No, you just go and communicate what you want to create and don't be attached to yes or no, like if he says he's not ready or he says no to you, you're still friends. You don't get, you're not going to be friends just because you don't get what you want. That's what I used to say to that many people. That's what I used to say to the many people like you, get to be there and don't be attached to the outcome.

Aisha Makara: 28:55

Many people get so attached to the outcome, to the picture. I've been one of them. Many years ago I switch, I started to ask myself why I'm so attached to that picture that I created inside of my head and that picture is not real, even it's just in my head and started to just, you know, kind of go with the flow and just not be attached to the outcome. It's all practice, it's everything in life. It's a practice and intentions, because people don't even think, they don't even come to that level of awareness of understanding how much they can create with their intentions. So for me, relationship is amazing things and I'm always very aware of my relationships. I really value my relationship.

Aisha Makara: 29:45

It's very few people who can understand me in this world and I really value these people in my life. Sometimes they're so pain in the ass and for me and I know, because they are very harsh on themselves. That's why they're very harsh on other people, because they're so harsh on themselves. Not so many people can get that level where they are, and everyone you know I'm from observation have a filter, the way they see the world. This is how they they communicated to the world. Because they're setting up such a very, very high bar for themselves. They want that other people have the same way, the way they live in life, and I'm not like this. I said to them listen, not so many people like you, guys, you get, you get allow other people to be the way they are, with their speed of learning or creating or whatever. It is not so many people in the world who can make a billions of dollars. Everyone in this world has 24 hours. Not so many can use this 24 hours and create the billions of it of it. Think about that?

Aisha Makara: 31:17

yeah, it's very true I'm like my relationship is very interesting because I have a billion years, I have a million years and my friends laughing at me like you're by, surrounded by trust funds and all my life, and I'm just feeling like I never been aware of it. Slowly I started to look at around and I'm like, yes, that's true, and I'm so rich within myself. Yes, I'm an orphan. Yes, I don't have parents. Yes, I don't like if I would focus what I don't have, I would not create it what I have right now and always say I have me and it's enough, it's more than enough. I have Aisha Makara, so it's enough. I can create anything I want in this lifetime. And it's true. I just go and create and you know, people don't see because this thing like, oh, I don't have family, if I would have this, if I would have this education, if I would have Every time they're just focusing on what they don't have the outside.

Aisha Makara: 32:21

And I say like focus what you have inside. You have this amazing life, you have this amazing body. This body is so smart and so intelligent who can attract absolutely anything you want. What you want, what you want to experience, is up to you. Just be confident about that. Believe I'm enough. I'm enough to experience absolutely anything. If I want to be the top, top of athlete of something, yes, you get to train all day long and, again, you need to have sponsors. You get. You get to have like many, many things that you get to have. In the same time, you have you. When you start to do things and really commit to that, people will come. You will attract absolutely anything. You want to be there, to be on that top. Yeah, just commit that time, just knowing that, yes, I get to train maybe 10 hours a day, maybe 20 hours a day in the beginning, I don't give yourself that permission and just start to do that. You know and don't give up.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 33:35

Well said. Yeah, well said because you're a living word, where many people because you have mentioned it many times orphaned and not having parents. Orphaned and not having parents, a lot of people get stuck in the wound of not feeling loved. Yet you are recognizing, you are that love and that just because I didn't have those parents, it didn't take away from my worth, where a lot of people are not being able to shift their perception with that. They're like stuck in the lack aspect rather than okay, this is what I have and how do I work with this? How do I allow myself to recognize I can feel my experiences, not be stuck in the lack of what I think is I'm not having? Was it always like that for you since a child? Or did see negativity?

Aisha Makara: 34:32

so when I was a child, you know, I was giving because I was like this is how I want to like, experience, love and I want to like. I always have these ideas and I just go and do it, the ideas I had. And when I've been orphaned and I always was thinking like, oh, it would be nice to have someone coming over here give me a hug, have a conversation with me. And when I get an adult and I went to the university I went to the orphan house. I started to be that person for the other kids, because I want that myself. When I was a kid and nobody was there, nobody come and I said these kids, they probably also want the same that I wanted. And I went and I started to do that. You know how fast it transforms things, how much I created in just few months, how many people started to go with me there, how we created nonprofit. It was completely like unbelievable. It was so fast when I just said to myself like you know, because sometimes people like thinking what if? And they don't do anything and I don't have time to think, I just go into and after I see the results because, yes, sometimes it's working very well, other times not, and I decided I have so many ideas at the same time. I'm just one human being, so I get to be way more intentional. What I want to create in the world, what I want to create, you know, for other people, for myself. And first I started to also realize I'm here to please myself, because I'm a people pleaser, and I decided, decided, like, I get to first please myself. That's when I started to do that. My world is changing completely because I started to communicate with other people when they started to question me or want me to feel guilty, and I said to them listen, I worked through this. Don't push it on me, don't put it on me. Please Go and work on yourself. Who are you to tell me what I get to feel? I'm in my body for over 30 years of my life. I'm my best friend for myself. I work through this. Go and work on yourself. Don't push me, don't tell me how I get to live my life. Go, live your life, get your life together and live it. I'm not here to teach you and you know. I just here to guide you, be an example, and you get to be open enough to learn and respect it and appreciate it. First, learn to appreciate yourself.

Aisha Makara: 37:09

When people started to appreciate themselves, I learned people you know the people who never wrote the book, how many opinions they have, how I get to write my book, how I get to do this. And then people who wrote the book, who went through the experience. They are so supportive. They give you hug, amazing job, keep going. I understand it was not easy, but you're doing amazing. Look at the colors you choose it. It's so cool. You went through the process.

Aisha Makara: 37:34

So I said, the people who created something in their life and actually have done and went through the work. They're always supportive. They're always giving, always giving you a hug and this love and always navigating you and guiding you and giving you. You know the network and the. You know the people who hasn't done anything in their life, just complaining and telling you how you get to live your life. They haven't achieved anything in their own life and I was like why I get to listen to these people who hasn't done anything in their life, who never went out of their own town? Why, yeah? And I used to say to the people listen, why are you listening to your mother, why are you listening to your father who hasn't done anything in their life, just complaining and doing nothing you know and teaching you about what, what they can teach you right now.

Aisha Makara: 38:29

Go and get a mentor you know, find the person you can look up to. Just talk Right now. We have so many ways to connect with these people and just share your story, share who you are, ask for support. You know how many people will say yes to you. 90% of these mentors will say yes to you. These people will say yes to you and will give you their time. You know how many mentors I have. Who makes billions, who help me to live my potential and living my dreams. You know, and I'm just. You know, I'm just going and talk to these people directly, asking for their support, for their guidance, because this is where I want to be one day.

Aisha Makara: 39:16

For me, they are example. Yes, maybe you don't see them on the TV or whatever. These people for me, who is in the TVs? They are not example. I cannot look at them as up. None of the superstars, whatever. None of them I cannot look up as example. They're all fucked up in my eyes. They cannot even manage their relationships.

Aisha Makara: 39:39

You know how they can be example for other people for what, who can manage very well the relationships, who can be very healthy with the body, who's very loving and caring in the first place and who really cares about humanity and planet Earth, have a good relationship with everyone around them. This is where I want to aim. You know, that's my kind of goal and I would like to be as house as I can. I would like to be as happy as I can, humble as I can. That's my goal, not the, the showing off every time for what. You know, that's for me. I'm very selective who I want to look up to, and many times it's just me, actually, because I cannot find. It's not easy to find the people that I can look up to. Everything is fucked up anyway.

Aisha Makara: 40:39

So, you get to be just more selective which direction you want to fuck up your life. In some ways, you know Exactly. You know it's repetition, the history repeating itself, many things repeating itself. I look at my life as a winner. I'm a winner. I'm here to win. By being here in the planet Earth is already a win, it is.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 41:02

It is, it is.

Aisha Makara: 41:03

The rest is just bonus. By living this magical, beautiful, colorful life, it's a bonus, you know, to living in dreams, to get clarity on your vision and mission, it's a bonus.

Aisha Makara: 41:20

Very much so, and this is the reality. Get clear on your relationship, get the like. Block your parents time to time, or your sister and brothers your best friends because they're dragging, dragging you down and you want to go up. You. You want to lift yourself up by being that example sometimes. Yes, it's not easy to block your mother for three months, but the only things what she's doing is just worry about you, telling, telling you how you get to live your life. She hasn't done anything in her life, how she can help you to live a better life if she hasn't done anything. That she cannot even work on her relationship very well. She's fighting with the father every day for no reason. Sometimes why? Why she's fighting with the father every day for no reason. Sometimes you know why, why you want to have more peaceful, beautiful and magical relationships. So go and find these people who has it.

Aisha Makara: 42:22

Yeah, ask for support, ask for questions. You know, be curious. Curiosity is a magical tool. It is Learn from other people to be curious. Kids are curious all the time. Kids are so curious, they're always asking questions. They don't even think that this question is stupid or not. They just go in very curiously asking all these questions because this is what they do. They're curious and they're present in the moment.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 42:52

So when you're learning and you're curious, be present, listen carefully, yeah, and that's what I'm inviting people to do yeah, the word that comes up for me is courage. With you, it takes a lot of courage to be the warrior of taking responsibility for your life, for your perception and how your experiences feel, rather than dump it on other people and tell other people how to make you feel You're taking that full responsibility and also being self-aware that you know humaning with other humans is very challenging. Yet we can work in community. Yet you also can like a lot of people think that you have to be open to everybody and it's like no, not every. Like oil and water don't mix. It doesn't mean oil is bad, it doesn't mean water is bad, it just doesn't mix.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 43:44

So understand what works with your energy. You know some people that can go at a slow pace be around slow pace. Other people that want to go fast be fast. Also, expose yourself to other things because you want to be able to stretch, you want to be able to see what other things are hiding in you that want to be developed.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 44:05

Yet the word that really just shines out is courage, like even just hearing you travel and the way that, like you know, just knocking and asking, not being afraid of the no's because you're already still in the same position. It's that I can have an opportunity of more. Yet if I don't ask, then I'm just going to stay exactly at the same place. The no didn't put me in any other place. But psychologically that's not always easy to tap into and recognize that, because we get all kinds of different feelings or sensations that can come up where it's like okay, but we can still get that, yes. So courage really stands out for me when I hear you speaking and the energy that you have. Will you let the listeners know where they can find you and where they can find this book that you've written, so that they can be infected with your energy?

Aisha Makara: 45:00

Yes, you can find me on my website, aishatoday is A-I-S-H-A dot today where people can see my projects that I'm working on, my art. That is in the space. The article um like about my mentorship program as well, about my book, and also you can find my book is amazon joyful living guidebook by aisha makara. Um, it's with my art in it as well, so you can also look at my art. Uh, and the different suggestions I or guidance I call like because it's a guidebook, just like examples of what it is to live a joyful life. I believe everyone can create the idea of their own joyful life and following it by themselves and practice it by themselves. Also, I'm also inviting people to get a clear idea of what it is to be a great human, a great mother, a great father. What it is is get clarity on these different topics in your life and just be it, practice it day by day. Maybe make a list, you know, and just like what I have, what I don't have, what I get to add what I get to you know, kind of take off, because one life and as clear as you are, as clear as you are, the better life you are.

Aisha Makara: 46:37

We are just partners of habits and our habits create our life. Our words create our action. Our action creates our habits. So it's all together. It's. You know, every time you read off one habit, you're editing a new habit. So also it's everything. It's a perspective. Also, know what will work for me probably will not work for you. So be aware of it. Everyone is different, everyone has a unique way of being, everyone has a unique skill set. So just use that that benefit your life. So just use that that benefits your life and that helps you to create that joyful, beautiful life that you want to live and live your dreams always. I always live my dreams. I love to live my dreams.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 47:23

I'm addicted to that, actually it feels you, it feels you now from our conversation. Will you leave the listeners an intention that will empower them?

Aisha Makara: 47:37

be patient with yourself. Patience, it's a great tool. The like we used to say, moscow was not built in one day. Everything takes time. So be patient and give yourself every time hug and kisses when you have done something very good, and just give hug and kisses. This is what I do. I used to say, like everyone, all my friends in my life, it's all about hug and kisses. I don't want to, I don't accept anything else. Even it's not easy conversation Hug and kisses first and after we can have a conversation. I love it.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 48:16

I love it. Well, you know what this has been a delight and, like I said, I love being in the energy of you creating, sharing that space with us right now, before you put yourself out into the world again and share your delight and your joy and your creativity. I look forward to following your journey and I really hope that we'll stay connected. You are a ball of energy and it's really great to feel your presence, so please remember to be kind to yourself.

Aisha Makara: 48:50

Yeah, joyful living, namaste. We all get to be kind to yourself. Yeah, joyful living, namaste. We all get to be kind to ourselves. That's my one of the also my invitation to the people. I'm kind with myself and I would love people be more kind with themselves, because world is so beautiful when we started to learn about kindness and love and caring like and safety and security, that I'm safe, I'm secured, that universe loves me, god is always with me and you know my angels, my archangels. I used to say like I have army of supporters. I don't see them and they're here with me exactly.

NatNat - LiftOneSelf: 49:36

Thank you, aisha, for being you thank you.

Aisha Makara: 49:39

Thank you for having me enjoy your living.